The Social Nature of Humans and Making the Most of It

From philosophy to neurology, from psychology to religion, from anthropology to biology, it has been argued that humans are, in their very nature, social beings.

And who are we to refute than, when our everyday lives are composed of enjoying our friends’ selfies, investing in romantic relationships, looking out for the next generation, and even engaging in social media for good causes?

The social nature of humans is embedded in our personal lives, the institutions and structures that govern them, our cultures, our histories, our belief systems, the way we acquire and share knowledge, and well, basically everything.

Including the very makeup of our brains. This fascinating finding in neuroscience has recently come up: our brains are inherently social.

Neuroscientists investigated the human brain in its non-active state i.e. when the person takes a break and lets his brain rest. When a person has down time, his brain turns on a system called the “default network.”

According to Matthew Lieberman, a famous social psychologist and neuroscientist: “The default network directs us to think about other people’s minds—their thoughts, feelings, and goals.”

Basically, whenever we try to chill out, our brains’ automatic response is to think of other people. This mirrors the history of our evolution as humans, since we all know that species which work well together have definitely shown more chances of survival.

Interestingly enough, tracing the origin of our social nature is simply evolutionary.

But then again, through thousands and thousands of years, this evolutionary fact must have manifested in other things.

For instance, in the way we experience pain. Social loss and social rejection may seem different from, say, bruises or wounds, but our brains seem to process them the same way.

And here’s a good explanation behind that:

A broken leg and a broken heart seem like very different forms of pain. But there are evolutionary reasons why our brains process social pain the way they process physical pain. Pain is a sign that something is wrong. Social pain signals that we are all alone—that we are vulnerable—and need to either form new connections or rekindle old ones to protect ourselves against the many threats that are out there.

No man is an island, indeed. While we definitely have basic needs like water, food, air, and shelter, social connections may as well be in the same category.

That’s what we can say for the way humans scientifically evolved as a species. Unfortunately, the way human society has evolved seems to be counterintuitive.

Over the years, our lifestyles have grown to be more individualistic, partly due to the economy, partly due to technology, though other factors come into play.

The point is this: we steadfastly seem to grow apart from each other, against our evolution and our biology.

These days, we seem to keep defying our social nature as we let our social connections dissolve. We could spend a long amount of time working our bodies off, forgetting whom we work for.

We pursue our ambitions, sometimes putting aside our loved ones, losing our grip on the fact that we won’t have the motivation and inspiration to succeed in the first place without them.

We convince ourselves to be content seeing each other as pixels on computer or phone screens.

BeepBeep Nation has an answer to this dilemma.

It ironically reverses the current trend in technology of creating distance between people, and instead uses the very potential of technology in developing our social nature.

By providing a platform to connect people who need help and people who can offer it, the BeepBeep Nation app seeks to give its users the opportunity to be as social as they want and need to be.

The provision of help through the BeepBeep Nation app requires an actual physical meetup between a requestor and a helper, so in addition to encouraging a culture of kindness, it also intensely promotes face-to-face human interactions.

Since its very mission of making the world a better place functions on the basis of our social nature as humans, BeepBeep Nation urges us to make the most of it in our everyday lives.

I’m sure it will take time to reflect on the social nature of humans, so while doing some philosophical thinking for yourself, be sure to check that out as well.

My final two cents: it might even be better to live out your ideas through BeepBeep Nation. Instead of merely musing about it, let’s participate in a world that is truly more social than ever!

Kindness To Strangers May Lead To Love

Will kindness to strangers find you a soulmate or at least someone that you could spend the rest of your life with?

We cannot deny that romantic love is one of the biggest aspects of our lives.

From all the world’s love songs to romantic comedy films, from museum art to television commercials, from poems to Facebook photo albums, that kind of love is constantly promoted to us by various forms of media.

One of the grandest days of every year is even dedicated to that idea; once a year, every corner is filled with figures of baby angels and big old hearts punctured by a golden arrow, dozens and dozens of roses, stacks and stacks of chocolate boxes, stuffed toys, sometimes even expensive jewelry, and all of that cheesy Valentine’s merchandise.

Kindness to strangers and finding love

Now of course not everybody has the same cheesy dreams to chase. Some believe in milder or not-so-cliché notions of romance.

You might have understood love through a simple story of how your parents met at an elevator at the workplace one day and just started talking, which led to 30 years (and counting!) of marriage.

Or you might have appreciated it as you spot an adorable couple just chilling out and individually reading books together at a coffee shop.

Maybe you currently have a significant other, and you fall in love with her a little bit more every time you watch her earnestly solving crossword puzzles.

These are all notions of romantic love as well.

Kindness to strangers may lead you to your significant other

However, so many people also lose their minds over love.

Believing that they cannot exist without their romantic partner, they lose sight of everything once the relationship ends.

Or hopelessly waiting for the attention of the person who do not love them the same way, they waste years and years of their lives.

I can’t begin to fathom the number of heartbroken humans in the world right now.

Meanwhile, I know some people who are in the single-and-not-really-enjoying-it boat, because they are so fixated in finally having a significant other.

I have a friend who regularly asks me to match her up with someone or pretty much anyone I know (which is a recipe for disaster, I tell you), and then ends up at my apartment crying on my shoulder whenever her Tinder dates go badly.

I can’t tell if she is just bored or doesn’t know what else to do with her life, but I do think my friend is a good person who has a lot of love to share. She just hasn’t found the right one to share her heart with.

Waiting for the right person

For all of you who are in a similar situation, this is what I told her a few times before: there are other kinds of affection that you can choose to share with people now.

You can even give some kindness to strangers in need. You don’t need to be romantically involved just to give love and be loved.

There’s too much kindness, tenderness, and happiness to be given in the world, just for all of it to be caged inside us as we wait for Prince or Princess Charming.

Romantic love isn’t the ultimate kind of love; there are many, and it’s just one of them.

For instance, we can pour our love towards our family members. Take your mom and sister out to brunch or a makeover and spa day every once in a while.

Also, your mom and dad will certainly appreciate if you arrange a fancy date night for them, one they probably haven’t had for some time now. Shower your pets with affection — I’m sure it’s going to be incredibly fulfilling to be reminded of how sweet they can really be.

Stop looking for prospects during a girls’ night out, forget all about the boys, and really have some fun with each other.

Stop taking the people (and lovable pets?) around you for granted while looking for somebody else to love.

There is also much to learn when you go out into the world to seek new connections, and not necessarily in the romantic sense.

Maybe your significant other isn’t supposed to be a lover; maybe your love and affection can go instead to a stranger in need.

Spend your hours volunteering at a home for the elderly and give kindness to strangers. Teach your passions to the kids in the community. Help someone out at the grocery.

Sharing your kindness to strangers in need is another type of love that is just as pure and meaningful.

Sharing your kindness to strangers in need

The BeepBeep Nation app has the mission of making the world a better place and encouraging everyone to share their love and affection by giving kindness to strangers in need.

By providing a platform to connect people who want to request for help and others who can offer that help, BeepBeep Nation enables people to be more compassionate and more loving.

BeepBeep Nation users will have endless opportunities to enjoy face-to-face social interactions and meet interesting people.

Check out the BeepBeep Nation app now, and see if you would like to support our mission.

By promoting kindness in the world, you just might find yourself having many significant others.

By offering your help to a stranger in need, you just might offer your heart as well.