The Art of Happiness And Being Kind

Happiness is an art, which makes it hard for all of us to attain it.

Everyone has dreams and aspirations. Some people strive towards certain long-term goals, integrating their sense of self, their career, their relationships, and other aspects of their lives mindfully — and in such a way that they organize particular steps on how to find success and work on that plan.

Others are more content to live each day to the fullest, making the most of the different aspects of their lives even without a precise set of objectives, and finding small successes in short-term goals that they achieve.

Either way, everyone is trying to figure things out. In my understanding, what we’re really trying to figure out is the art of happiness.

I’m sure all of us have wondered, some more often than others, if we’re currently happy with our lives.

And if we realize we’re happy, we then ask, how do we continue being so?

And if we realize we’re not, how do we start working on it?

I don’t have a degree in psychology or anything, and I’m sure I’m only one of too many people to reflect out loud about the art of happiness, but let me speak from experience and take a crack at it anyway.

What can you do to be happy?

The Art Of Happiness: The 4 Things You Can Do

1. Start Here And Now

First and foremost, it’s important to stop delaying or postponing the search of what makes you happy. It helps to start simple.

You don’t have to engage so deeply in a philosophical discourse and quote from famous ancient Greek scholars.

You don’t have to get a life motto tattooed on your arm and consistently try to stick by it everyday.

You don’t have to repaint your entire house so that it will look cheerful and inspire you to feel the same.

If any of those helps, good. But what matters is this: start today.

The desire to have a profound definition of happiness will put so much pressure on you. Instead, focus on the many unexpected little ways to start reflecting on your life and the art of happiness.

Simply reading a book, dressing up nicely for yourself, baking cookies or walking around the community might be able to help.

The point is for you to put yourself in the mindset of actively wanting to be happy, instead of merely letting your ordinary day-to-day routine pass you by.

2. Work Towards A Healthy Lifestyle

Now that you’re in the mindset of being happy in small and simple ways, it’s also time to introduce small and simple changes to your lifestyle.

After reflecting on the ordinary things you do everyday, it helps to identify how you want to make them better.

A definitely beneficial step is to pursue the healthy lifestyle you’ve always known you needed, whether that means putting effort into a plant-based diet or a regular exercise routine or both.

After all, a healthy body and a healthy mind should work together. Relax once in a while. Take breaks from social media.

I’m sure being more mindful of your lifestyle practices will eventually have a payoff.

Work towards your happiness by becoming healthier

3. Make Positive Memories

No man is an island. As creatures with a social nature, it’s a significant part of our lives to cultivate our interpersonal relationships.

But it’s not enough just to ask your family or friends how they are every once in a while. To properly keep up with our intimate connections, we have to ensure we spend quality time together.

Do a fun activity with your peers, something that you miss because you haven’t done in so long. Go bowling. Redo your garden with your family. Have a picnic with your nieces and nephews.

I’m sure there are a lot of positive memories from the previous years that you go back to whenever you’re feeling down, so what’s stopping you from creating more of those?

Bond with your loved ones, help each other make fantastic memories, and I don’t know, take some selfies to immortalize those great moments? Again, it doesn’t matter how you do it; what matters is that you do.

Be thankful and happy

4. Express Gratitude And Exercise Kindness

Here’s where I go scientific about the art of happiness. Some studies have tried to recognize certain predictors to our well-being, and they consistently include these: gratitude and kindness.

Feeling grateful is an awesome mindset to maintain, though it doesn’t come naturally. We spend so much time wanting more that we forget to be thankful for what’s already there for us.

We forget that sometimes, good enough is good enough.

It takes practice to inculcate gratitude in oneself, so make it part of your life. Write a thank you note each day — to a parent, a friend, a co-worker, or even a stranger. (Science says you don’t even have to send the letter of gratitude, so long as you write it down and get to think about it.)

If you’re a spiritual person, say thanks through your prayers before going to sleep.

Perhaps most effectively, feel grateful and pay it forward. Interestingly enough, gratitude works best when the positive feelings associated with it translate into kindness.

Don’t be afraid to help out. Not only will it make you feel good about yourself, performing acts of kindness can even give you actual health benefits.

Express gratitude and exercise kindness

These are only a few steps that you can initiate towards discovering the art of happiness. The specific answers, of course, will depend on your own history and your future goals.

But then, if you’re only going to follow four words from my list of tips, choose these: start here and now.

You might be surprised at the happiness — and more potential of it — that is already present around you, if you just look close enough.

BeepBeep Nation’s upcoming app will provide a platform for people to request for the help they need and others to offer their help. By facilitating face-to-face human interaction and creating a culture of kindness, the world becomes a much kinder and better place for everyone.

If you want to be one of the first in the world to use it when it’s ready, simply register as one of our supporters here.

Kindness To Strangers May Lead To Love

Will kindness to strangers find you a soulmate or at least someone that you could spend the rest of your life with?

We cannot deny that romantic love is one of the biggest aspects of our lives.

From all the world’s love songs to romantic comedy films, from museum art to television commercials, from poems to Facebook photo albums, that kind of love is constantly promoted to us by various forms of media.

One of the grandest days of every year is even dedicated to that idea; once a year, every corner is filled with figures of baby angels and big old hearts punctured by a golden arrow, dozens and dozens of roses, stacks and stacks of chocolate boxes, stuffed toys, sometimes even expensive jewelry, and all of that cheesy Valentine’s merchandise.

Kindness to strangers and finding love

Now of course not everybody has the same cheesy dreams to chase. Some believe in milder or not-so-cliché notions of romance.

You might have understood love through a simple story of how your parents met at an elevator at the workplace one day and just started talking, which led to 30 years (and counting!) of marriage.

Or you might have appreciated it as you spot an adorable couple just chilling out and individually reading books together at a coffee shop.

Maybe you currently have a significant other, and you fall in love with her a little bit more every time you watch her earnestly solving crossword puzzles.

These are all notions of romantic love as well.

Kindness to strangers may lead you to your significant other

However, so many people also lose their minds over love.

Believing that they cannot exist without their romantic partner, they lose sight of everything once the relationship ends.

Or hopelessly waiting for the attention of the person who do not love them the same way, they waste years and years of their lives.

I can’t begin to fathom the number of heartbroken humans in the world right now.

Meanwhile, I know some people who are in the single-and-not-really-enjoying-it boat, because they are so fixated in finally having a significant other.

I have a friend who regularly asks me to match her up with someone or pretty much anyone I know (which is a recipe for disaster, I tell you), and then ends up at my apartment crying on my shoulder whenever her Tinder dates go badly.

I can’t tell if she is just bored or doesn’t know what else to do with her life, but I do think my friend is a good person who has a lot of love to share. She just hasn’t found the right one to share her heart with.

Waiting for the right person

For all of you who are in a similar situation, this is what I told her a few times before: there are other kinds of affection that you can choose to share with people now.

You can even give some kindness to strangers in need. You don’t need to be romantically involved just to give love and be loved.

There’s too much kindness, tenderness, and happiness to be given in the world, just for all of it to be caged inside us as we wait for Prince or Princess Charming.

Romantic love isn’t the ultimate kind of love; there are many, and it’s just one of them.

For instance, we can pour our love towards our family members. Take your mom and sister out to brunch or a makeover and spa day every once in a while.

Also, your mom and dad will certainly appreciate if you arrange a fancy date night for them, one they probably haven’t had for some time now. Shower your pets with affection — I’m sure it’s going to be incredibly fulfilling to be reminded of how sweet they can really be.

Stop looking for prospects during a girls’ night out, forget all about the boys, and really have some fun with each other.

Stop taking the people (and lovable pets?) around you for granted while looking for somebody else to love.

There is also much to learn when you go out into the world to seek new connections, and not necessarily in the romantic sense.

Maybe your significant other isn’t supposed to be a lover; maybe your love and affection can go instead to a stranger in need.

Spend your hours volunteering at a home for the elderly and give kindness to strangers. Teach your passions to the kids in the community. Help someone out at the grocery.

Sharing your kindness to strangers in need is another type of love that is just as pure and meaningful.

Sharing your kindness to strangers in need

The BeepBeep Nation app has the mission of making the world a better place and encouraging everyone to share their love and affection by giving kindness to strangers in need.

By providing a platform to connect people who want to request for help and others who can offer that help, BeepBeep Nation enables people to be more compassionate and more loving.

BeepBeep Nation users will have endless opportunities to enjoy face-to-face social interactions and meet interesting people.

Check out the BeepBeep Nation app now, and see if you would like to support our mission.

By promoting kindness in the world, you just might find yourself having many significant others.

By offering your help to a stranger in need, you just might offer your heart as well.