Why Be Kind To One Another: Kindness Pays

There are many reasons why we want to be kind to one another in the various aspects of our life.

They include our family, colleagues and strangers.

It can not only change the lives of the people we have helped, but also literally change ours as well, health wise.

The graphic above shows some of the amazing scientific benefits of kindness that you probably didn’t know about.

In a nutshell, being kind to one another may actually increase our lifespan.

Why is this so?

How An Act Of Kindness Impacts The Various Parties

An act of kindness occurs in situations where somebody is in need of help.

He is unable to help himself, or he is unable to help himself in time, or he is unaware that he needs help.

The helper gains satisfaction and joy in seeing the person needing help get better in some small or big way.

The person needing help and is helped will feel thankful and grateful to the helper for solving his problem. This reduces his distress and stress levels significantly.

It follows that witnesses to the act of kindness also experience what those 2 parties are experiencing. This is probably because they think they may be able to play the role of the helper and make a difference, or they could also be the person needing help who then gets the help.

All the 3 parties to an act of kindness will experience happiness.

In the presence of a good deed done by one person to another, our brain produces the chemicals that make us feel the joy, or reduces the chemicals that make us sad or stressed out.

And an increase in our lifespan may be the end result!

Witness Someone Being Kind To Another – And Notice How You Feel

Check out the video below.

You are a witness to the unquestionably talented artist who is sketching the people in front of him in the subway, and then giving the art away to them as a gift.

Be honest now. How did you feel when you saw that act of kindness?

How are you feeling now, after the video has ended?

How will you be feeling later, as you think back on what you have seen?

Note that all 3 parties feel similarly, to varying degrees.

Here’s the science behind what we are feeling — and how they are making us healthier!

Doing Acts Of Kindness Releases The DOSE Of Happiness

The 4 major chemicals released in our brain when we are happy are Dopamine, Oxytocin, Serotonin and Endorphins (“DOSE”).

Dopamine is released in our brain when we have achieved a goal set.

Helping someone is a goal – and once we have done it, we feel immense satisfaction. This feeling is compounded when the person being helped expresses his gratitude and happiness for the help.

Dopamine is also called “Helper’s High” for this reason.

Oxytocin is released when we bond with somebody.

The act of helping another promotes this bond and we feel closer to them as a result. It also increases our self-esteem, reduces stress and plays a role in the health of our heart.

Serotonin makes us happier, calmer and more focused.

Low levels of it has been associated with depression.

It also regulates our sleep and digestion, as well as the health of our bones.

Endorphins are our body’s natural painkillers.

They help alleviate any pain we may have and maximise pleasure from an activity that is important to our survival.

This includes helping someone else who is in distress or pain. Endorphins enable us to continue providing the help even when we also experience some pain and discomfort in doing so.

Endorphins also help alleviate depression and reduce stress and anxiety, as well as give us confidence and help us to sleep better.

We get the full DOSE of Happiness by simply doing kind acts for others!

Here Are Some Easy Ways For Us To Be Kind To One Another

For us to have all the health benefits from being kind, we must do random acts of kindness regularly to make a difference in the lives of those we are helping.

Helping somebody just one time will give us a buzz of satisfaction, due to the release of the brain chemicals above. But it will quickly fade, along with all the benefits we get from them.

As such we have to follow up one act of kindness with more over a period of time so that we are in a state of happiness for the long term.

The best way to do this is to simply be kind to everybody, and make it a part of our routine for the rest of our lives.

Fortunately there are a couple of easy ways that we can do this.

Be Kind To One Another: Volunteer For A Cause

volunteers live longer

Being a volunteer for a cause involves multiple factors that enhance our wellbeing.

Depending on our roles, we may be exercising by moving a lot, perhaps shifting things around, walking to some place, or preparing meals in a group.

Exercise also releases endorphins, dopamine and serotonin — all of which provide the benefits stated above.

Group activities with other volunteers also promote the release of oxytocin which increases our bond with them, as does meeting the people the volunteering is meant to benefit.

Supporting a cause that is meaningful to us will again release serotonin which gives us the confidence to meet it.

As such, you can see that the multiple benefits from volunteering for a cause we believe in would appear to feed on themselves, which gives us even more satisfaction and joy, reduces our stress and makes us calmer.

Simply find a cause you can volunteer for and make the time for its activities every week if you can.

If you want to volunteer to help BeepBeep Nation out, simply become one of our supporters here.

Be Kind To One Another: Make A To-Do List

We can also make a list of some acts of kindness we can do for anyone, starting today.

And then we simply do the acts everyday, checking each one off as we go along, and knowing that whoever we are helping everyday will be better off than before we did anything for them.

This will take some time and effort especially when we have never done it systematically before.

But it will be truly worth our effort, and not every act of kindness requires a lot of time.

Sometimes a simple phone call to talk to somebody for a few minutes is enough to make a difference.

Other times you may be just dropping some stuff off for the person you’re helping and you’re done.

There are 2 ways to make a list of things to do:

We can either:

1. Think of a list of acts of kindness that we can do for anybody — be they strangers or people we know

You can simply use your phone’s task app to type in your list of acts of kindness for someone you know, or some stranger.

Then simply check off each one as you do it, when you can. Keep adding to it as you go along and pretty soon you’ll be doing it everyday.

2. We can wait for others to ask us to help and then offer our help to them, if we can indeed help them.

This second option has the advantage in that the help is tailored to what the requestor for help actually wanted help with.

We are not guessing, so the results will be better for the requestor. The list is automatically created for us to check out.

We then offer the help if we can. Otherwise we can just skip to the next request.

Because the same request is being seen by other users of the app within the vicinity of the requestor, other people may be able to help when we cannot.

In fact, the more users there are for the app, the more help offers a requestor will get, thus ensuring as many people as possible get the help they need.

Kindness Pays

BeepBeep Nation aims to get the majority of people in the world to help another as much as they can, as regularly as they can.

Apart from the health benefits to ourselves when we help others, we are also changing the lives of those needing help but can’t access help easily.

The end result is a kinder, better world for everybody even as we all get healthier at the same time.

There are many other positive side effects from practising kindness. BeepBeep Nation will facilitate this, and in the process, create amazing values for the world that don’t currently exist!

The BeepBeep Nation app which is being developed currently (with some awesome help from our supporters) can do this and much, much more!

If you would like to be one of our supporters, simply click here and let us know.

Treat People With Kindness In Your Career

There are an endless number of ways to treat people with kindness.

You can run a restaurant for the poor or raise money for children with disabilities.

When it comes to helping others, it doesn’t matter if you’re poor, middle class or part of the 1%.

You can be a total busybody and still give back by using your career as a means of benefitting others. 

Even better, there is evidence to show that being kind as part of your career will provide you with more benefits in your career itself. This is in addition to the benefits others will get from you.

Here’s how you can use your job to treat people with kindness

If you are a university student, fearing that your future occupation may be a selfish one is completely natural.

After all, being a creative writer or interior designer may seem, in a way, limited.

This is far from true, as many jobs can be platforms for sharing knowledge and information with others.

If you are a chef, you can use your expertise to educate other aspiring chefs, whether this means charging for a workshop or doing it for free.

Offering your services pro bono is another awesome way to do good. It may not profit you financially, but giving others a means to learn without expecting anything from them may bring you joy that you otherwise would not get. 

Reach out to charitable institutions and figure out where you can be an asset.

Who knows? You may be part of the success story of an aspiring engineer.

If you’re unsure of how your job can help others directly, use it to advocate for something.

If you’re a graphic designer promoting mental health, make a beautiful, informative and accurate infographic to educate the public so that they can understand it better.

If it’s truly useful, it can be shared all over social media. This will result in many more people with mental health issues be recognised and offered help. 

If you’re a meat farmer, you may want to start implementing the various ways to make farming more humane for the animals.

Somehow, things always fall into place, even when partnerships seem odd.

There are so many different ways to treat people with kindness.

Social media and Google can give you all the resources you need to be innovative and creative.

If you are fairly established in the working world, a sensible option would be to earn to give.

Figure out how much of your salary you can set aside for a cause you are truly passionate about.

Decide whether you are financially stable enough to commit to a charity for a certain amount of time.

Do research to ensure that your money is being distributed fairly and doing exactly what it is meant to.

Of course, sticking to a group will require some involvement. So engage with your charity every now and then via visits or volunteer to participate in their activities.

If you are not yet in the above category, you can still help treat people with kindness with your time and effort. 

If you feel your job should be directly involved with a cause, don’t hesitate to seek employment with charities or social enterprises, or even start one from scratch.

This way, you can make helping others your career. 

This is exactly what the founders of BeepBeep Nation do. It’s a social enterprise with the goal of enabling those in need to get help and those who can help to offer it, 24/7 all over the world.

You can also help BeepBeep Nation in its mission by becoming one of its supporters. There are a myriad of things to do, and you may be able to help out in some way. 

Simply click here and see how you can be a part of BeepBeep Nation’s vision of a kinder, better world.

In any case, decide where you think you can be most useful in and what problems are most urgent to you that are not being addressed by any entity. You can then present your solution and attract volunteers or people with the same intention and work towards it.  

If you are great with computers, you can opt to do research regarding statistics or patterns that may be of use to those needing the data but can’t afford to hire a specialist to get them.

Perhaps you’re a fearless public speaker who is the best person to promote your own cause. You will need to master social media so that your message can reach many more people than just those within your proximity.

But mastering them will also benefit your main career at the same time. So you’re really maximising your efforts for both your career and your good cause. 

If you have the passion, your energy will come out of nowhere.  Chances are that you’ll find your place within whatever field of work you choose.

Picking out the perfect job may be a case of what earns the most or what line of work your family is in. But keep in mind that it is also about your personal desires and strengths, as well as its potential to impact others.

This makes your job a good way to both earn your keep and make a huge difference in your community and the world – irrespective of how small you think your contributions may be. 

Every little act of kindness for anybody done over a long period of time will add up. Collectively, they will not only benefit the recipients of your help, but also inspire some of them to do likewise for their own community and over time, the entire world.  

Dare to Care: Why Helping Out is an Act of Bravery

In this world, those who dare to care are the brave.

It takes no effort to be comfortable in our own homes, binge-watching TV shows while munching on popcorn, cozy in our jammies and unbothered about the rest of humanity.

But it takes a bit of courage to open our eyes and see those who need us.

This is the case whether they are people on the other side of the world or people who belong to our own communities.

It takes stepping up to be aware of our selfish conveniences and realize that there’s someone out there seeking help, with no one to help him or her.

Just the initiative to feel for others is an act of bravery.

Dare To Care: Love Everybody

Now more than ever, the Internet has given us access to an infinite number of stories.

Some say humans have never witnessed so much tragedy before; of course, these atrocities have always been happening and suffering has always been a constant in this world.

Generations before us had to endure so much pain as well. But they never had the same access to the lives of others.

Now, with just one click, you are able to read about everything horrible that is going on in the world. And as humans, we are not built to carry so much heartache.

Empathy is painful.

Neurologically speaking, the pain you feel for yourself and the pain you feel for others seem to activate the same processes in the brain.

This must be why it’s so easy to ignore the pain of others: it gives us the same pain, but it’s a pain we can avoid.

After all, it’s not really our lives at stake.

To be empathetic is to subject ourselves to hurting.

This is precisely why it is an act of bravery to see the pain of others.

And what better way to express this courage than to actually do something about it?

Not only are you being aware of another’s suffering, you are going out of your way to help alleviate it.

To disregard one’s comfort in life is a very difficult task, but sometimes, helping others doesn’t necessarily mean abandoning yourself.

Sometimes, there are ways to take the initiative without severely hurting yourself and challenging your pain tolerance. Sometimes, a simple act of bravery every now and then should suffice.

The BeepBeep Nation app has a mission of making the world a better place by encouraging people to be a little courageous every now and then.

By providing a platform to connect people who need help and people who can offer help, it enables its users to do an act of bravery and improve their sense of compassion, with only a bit of effort.

BeepBeep Nation motivates its users to reach out to other individuals in various ways: by simply offering a ride to work or a place to stay, by simply answering questions in an accurate manner, by simply offering an extra hand during a medical emergency, and many others.

Reaching out in little ways seems convenient, right?

But like I said, a simple act of bravery at particular moments should be enough.

Because a simple act of bravery through the BeepBeep Nation app can nurture a culture of compassion like never before.

It can start a revolution of people being kind to each other and paying it forward (perhaps endlessly).

So dare yourself to be brave and use that courage to care for others.

If you want to join BeepBeep Nation’s mission of motivating everyone to be kind, helpful, and brave, become a BeepBeep Nation here and make a difference.

So dare to care, and dare to see this for yourself: a world of kindness.

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Read more on kindness:

Why Be Kind To One Another: Kindness Pays
The Art Of Happiness And Being Kind

Acts Of Kindness Amidst Global Challenges

Is there a shortage of acts of kindness in the world right now?

Some people would say the world we live in is a dark, dark place currently. There is, of course, some truth to that.

All around us, there are stories of conflict, of suffering, of endless global crises. But it doesn’t have to stay that way.

There might be problems we cannot ever address because they need entire organizations and nations to solve.

But even as ordinary humans we can do our fair share of alleviating the hardships of others with acts of kindness.

The Role Of Technology

One thing that has consistently helped us is the advent of technology. Again, some would say that our constant drive for innovations and scientific advancements are actually urging us to veer away from our humanity and from each other, but certain developments prove otherwise.

Some argue that technology can even make us more human. And I agree, especially when it comes to social apps and how they have facilitated empathy between people.

Despite the many problems that people around the world are facing, some glimmer of hope arises in social apps and how they bring people closer to each other and thus closer to solving their crises.

Here are some ways that social apps nurture hope:

Acts of kindness - speaking out and raising awareness

1. Speaking out and raising awareness

More and more, social apps are being used to promote awareness and share vital information.

Some people are simply not as exposed to important issues, and they truly benefit from others who speak out in order to help them understand.

For instance, a mother posted some facts plus her own take on depression on Facebook, an inspiring post that has gone viral and helped break stigmatizing opinions on the matter.

Mental health is a serious problem because it is not yet as accepted by many people despite the scientific data, so it always helps to bring stuff like it to the limelight and get the conversation going. It is always so tear-jerking when you hear (or read?) someone speak so passionately about something so significant.

Since it spans networks and networks of people, social media could definitely be a good avenue to raise awareness.

Ordinary individuals can participate in the global discussion, even if it means starting to inform and converse with the people who are closer to them.

Acts Of Kindness: Crowdfunding

2. Crowdfunding

One of my favorite online trends ever is GoFundMe. It helped a deaf boy provide hearing aids to fellow deaf children. It helped cops replace the stolen college tuition money of a deserving student. It helped students fund the surgery of their teacher’s wife.

Fundraising initiatives have probably been going around since time immemorial, but technology has certainly taken it to a whole new level.

Crowdfunding is an interesting online trend because you are not only appealing to people you know inside your own community, you are inviting people from everywhere to share your cause.

In doing so, you get to witness acts of kindness on a global scale. It proves that we don’t have to be so similar, we can speak different languages and live in different countries, and still have the heart to help each other.

3. Doing little acts of kindness

Lastly, just because we can raise awareness virtually or donate money online, doesn’t mean help is limited nowadays to digital forms.

Tweets, Facebook posts, and even blogs that talk about important issues are definitely a good way to participate in changing the world.

Crowdsourcing is another surefire way to help people out and make an impact in their lives, even if they are far away. But again, help that comes from progressive technology doesn’t necessarily have to remain online or virtual.

Acts Of Kindness: Hi-Tech and Hi-Touch

The BeepBeep Nation app has a proposal to digitally facilitate connections but encourage face-to-face interactions between people who are willing to help each other out.

By linking people who need help and people who can provide it, regardless of how seemingly simple and small the favor is, BeepBeep Nation inspires us to take a step forward and initiate a culture of helping amongst ourselves.

It is also a true community app, as it seeks to build networks of peers among people who willingly share their kindness with one another.

It may not seem like a lot to give someone a ride home or a place to stay, or even offer your own recommendation to promote your favorite restaurant in the vicinity, but it’s a start.

The world could be a dark place, but there are an infinite number of ways to share the light, if only little by little.

If you think there’s hope in social apps like I do, and want to share your own little spark, be sure to check out the BeepBeep Nation app, soon to launch worldwide in selected cities.

If you want to ensure it gets launched sooner rather than later, register to become a supporter here and offer your help in any way you can. Get started now and participate in a world of technological progress, hope and kindness.

Volunteer Benefits – The Science

There are many benefits for volunteers. Here's the science behind compassion.

A volunteer benefits from doing their share in alleviating the suffering of their fellow human beings.

We frequently showcase this kind of stories — of people with exemplary acts of devotion and compassion or even people who do random little acts of kindness in their everyday lives.

Some people who enjoy helping out tend to do so for religious or spiritual reasons.

And whether it’s Buddhism, Christianity, Islam, or others, the religions of the world do have discourses of compassion.

Though I myself have always been curious about a different but equally important aspect of this human tendency: is there a science behind this?

volunteer benefits from psychologically and physiologically when doing good deeds.

I’m glad to report: yep, there is.

A study done by experimental social psychologists tested how the experience of compassion affected people’s behavior.

First, participants were told that they were supposedly part of an experiment about mathematical ability and taste perception.

Ostensibly, these were the instructions: participants were supposed to solve as much as they can of 20 math problems, in which they would receive 50 cents for each problem they solved correctly.

After being checked and getting paid, they would proceed to the taste perception phase. Here, participants were asked to prepare taste samples for each other by pouring extra-hot hot sauce.

It seems absurd, but here’s the catch.

The experimenters hired confederates to pretend to be fake participants.

Let’s call the first one Dan and the second Hannah. In one version of the experiment, Dan was asked to cheat badly and very obviously on the math problems, so that the real participants would see.

Afterwards, in the taste perception phase, the experimenters noticed that the real participants poured bigger servings of hot sauce to Dan the Cheater.

But doesn’t this show revenge instead of compassion?

experiment to see the effects of compassion on volunteers.

Well, in another version, Dan the Cheater was asked to do the same thing but now Hannah was gonna play a role.

Before the taste perception phase, Hannah would cry and the experimenters would ask why.

She’d say she recently found out about her brother’s terminal illness. Increasingly emotional, Hannah asked to be excused from the experiment.

In this version, even though the participants still witnessed Dan cheating, they did not pour bigger amounts of hot sauce in the taste perception phase.

What does this show?

First, the compassion that the participants felt predicted how much hot sauce they were going to give to another person.

And second, more importantly, the compassion that people feel towards one person can predict how they will act towards others.

This experiment is only one of many studies that are now delving into the idea and reality of compassion.

Recently, a conference has even been held to discuss it, joined by representatives from different fields such as evolutionary psychologists, clinical psychologists who deal with children suffering from trauma, charity owners who conduct social and emotional skills workshops for the youth, and others.

brain scans to determine the different states in the brain that correspond to compassion.

Using brain scans, one doctor even explained how different parts of the brain are activated when people are in a “compassionate state” or “non-compassionate state.”

So interestingly enough, compassion actually seems to have physiological, neurological effects.

A volunteer benefits both his body and mind.

But now here’s the thing. My personal epiphany, if you will.

We can participate in all these discussions, conduct our own experiments if we’re in the field, compile all these data, but maybe it’ll be a bit more exciting to see for ourselves.

There’s all this science about compassion, we know that. But somehow I think the reality of compassion can’t be proven by numbers.

Tall order but maybe here’s what we can do: go out there, help people out, and prove it for ourselves.

Help people out and reap the benefits as a volunteer.

If you are interested in reading more scientific information about kindness or compassion, here’s a list of various quantitative and qualitative studies about the topic.

Then again, if you are more keen to join the action, check out the upcoming BeepBeep Nation app. You might be surprised at the many ways you’ll see how compassion exists.