Idealist vs Realist – Which Is Best For Kindness?

Is it better to be an idealist vs a realist?

Time and time again, this age-old debate resurfaces among a group of friends, possibly during a night out for cocktails when someone shares his current career or relationship problems.

Surely at least one friend will emerge as the former and another will appear to be the latter. But sometimes a few of you will be confused as to how you have decided to look at life so far.

As a businesswoman, I have long ago come to terms with the fact that I need to be both, in order to deal with the life path I have chosen for myself.

Another path that necessitates the destruction of the either/or mentality when it comes to being an idealist vs realist is learning compassion.

To live a fruitful life of being kind to others and sharing your life with them, one must learn to be both.

I know seems like a contradiction. But first, let’s inspect what those terms generally mean to people.

Idealist vs Realist: Definitions

Here’s the definition of an Idealist in the Merriam-Webster dictionary:

The second definition of idealist applies to a person with a certain perspective or way of life.

Defined as “one guided by ideals” or “one that places ideals before practical considerations,” people who live by idealism probably aim to see things in a perfect light.

Often also dubbed as dreamers, visionaries and positive thinkers, idealists value noble principles and set high goals for themselves.

This often means that they tend towards optimism.

However, there’s also a misconception that idealists are naive, innocent, and wishful thinkers.

That doesn’t necessarily have to be a bad thing.

They only hope for a better future and live life according to that hope, which means that the big picture is very important to them.

However, by focusing on the big picture, they sometimes get ahead of themselves and forget to consider other important factors in a given situation. 

Now let’s contrast these traits with how a realistic person is described.

Here’s the definition of a Realist by Merriam-Webster:

While idealists focus on “what could be,” realists tend to look at “what actually is.”

They like to adopt a practical or pragmatic view of circumstances, which leads them to make safe and rational choices.

Sometimes, they tend towards cynicism or pessimism, but again, that’s not necessarily the case.

They just like to process particular aspects of a certain situation and carefully scrutinize the truth.

Instead of looking at the big picture of a better future, realists tend to break it down into components and set smaller, more achievable goals.

Sometimes, this tendency hinders them from taking risks and makes them settle with what they’re immediately given.

By focusing on the present, they may sometimes miss out on big possibilities.

In Creating A Kinder World, Which Mindset Is Better?

Now you may notice that both mindsets actually seem to need each other.

The debate for whether you’re an idealist or realist seems futile when you see the holes in either perspective.

For instance, an idealist may have high hopes towards a huge goal, but he is not equipped with enough focus to actually lay out steps on how to achieve that.

Meanwhile, a realist may have the analytic skills, but he doesn’t have any purpose so those skills just end up as unused potential.

When we stop thinking of whether we’re an idealist or realist and instead shift the conversation to how we should be the best of both, we start seeing that there’s so much more we can do.

An idealist perhaps wants to change the world and make a brighter future for everyone, a vision that is very helpful in our times, but nevertheless just a vision.

A realist can introduce practical ways on how to make that vision happen and sustain it, turning an idealistic hope into purposeful action.

To create a kinder, better world, you need to be both an idealist and a realist.

BeepBeep Nation: Kindness Pays

The BeepBeep Nation app encourages the idealist and the realist in everyone by enabling its users to regularly do kind acts and eventually invest deeper in a broader culture of kindness.

It provides a platform to connect people who need help and others who can provide that help, fostering new and healthy relationships or networks.

As such, not only does it promote an attitude and culture of helping each other out, it also makes way for a whole new level of face-to-face human interaction.

Aiming to build trust among individuals, BeepBeep Nation convinces the idealist in you that a brighter future or a better world is possible, and it urges the realist in you to start acting on that picture.

Now you no longer have to choose between being an idealist or realist; BeepBeep Nation offers some truly exciting ways to develop a healthy mindset that embraces both.

The BeepBeep Nation app is in its final stages of development. To be one of our supporters and be a part of our vision to make the world a better, kinder place, simply click here and let us know.

Treat People With Kindness In Your Career

There are an endless number of ways to treat people with kindness.

You can run a restaurant for the poor or raise money for children with disabilities.

When it comes to helping others, it doesn’t matter if you’re poor, middle class or part of the 1%.

You can be a total busybody and still give back by using your career as a means of benefitting others. 

Even better, there is evidence to show that being kind as part of your career will provide you with more benefits in your career itself. This is in addition to the benefits others will get from you.

Here’s how you can use your job to treat people with kindness

If you are a university student, fearing that your future occupation may be a selfish one is completely natural.

After all, being a creative writer or interior designer may seem, in a way, limited.

This is far from true, as many jobs can be platforms for sharing knowledge and information with others.

If you are a chef, you can use your expertise to educate other aspiring chefs, whether this means charging for a workshop or doing it for free.

Offering your services pro bono is another awesome way to do good. It may not profit you financially, but giving others a means to learn without expecting anything from them may bring you joy that you otherwise would not get. 

Reach out to charitable institutions and figure out where you can be an asset.

Who knows? You may be part of the success story of an aspiring engineer.

If you’re unsure of how your job can help others directly, use it to advocate for something.

If you’re a graphic designer promoting mental health, make a beautiful, informative and accurate infographic to educate the public so that they can understand it better.

If it’s truly useful, it can be shared all over social media. This will result in many more people with mental health issues be recognised and offered help. 

If you’re a meat farmer, you may want to start implementing the various ways to make farming more humane for the animals.

Somehow, things always fall into place, even when partnerships seem odd.

There are so many different ways to treat people with kindness.

Social media and Google can give you all the resources you need to be innovative and creative.

If you are fairly established in the working world, a sensible option would be to earn to give.

Figure out how much of your salary you can set aside for a cause you are truly passionate about.

Decide whether you are financially stable enough to commit to a charity for a certain amount of time.

Do research to ensure that your money is being distributed fairly and doing exactly what it is meant to.

Of course, sticking to a group will require some involvement. So engage with your charity every now and then via visits or volunteer to participate in their activities.

If you are not yet in the above category, you can still help treat people with kindness with your time and effort. 

If you feel your job should be directly involved with a cause, don’t hesitate to seek employment with charities or social enterprises, or even start one from scratch.

This way, you can make helping others your career. 

This is exactly what the founders of BeepBeep Nation do. It’s a social enterprise with the goal of enabling those in need to get help and those who can help to offer it, 24/7 all over the world.

You can also help BeepBeep Nation in its mission by becoming one of its supporters. There are a myriad of things to do, and you may be able to help out in some way. 

Simply click here and see how you can be a part of BeepBeep Nation’s vision of a kinder, better world.

In any case, decide where you think you can be most useful in and what problems are most urgent to you that are not being addressed by any entity. You can then present your solution and attract volunteers or people with the same intention and work towards it.  

If you are great with computers, you can opt to do research regarding statistics or patterns that may be of use to those needing the data but can’t afford to hire a specialist to get them.

Perhaps you’re a fearless public speaker who is the best person to promote your own cause. You will need to master social media so that your message can reach many more people than just those within your proximity.

But mastering them will also benefit your main career at the same time. So you’re really maximising your efforts for both your career and your good cause. 

If you have the passion, your energy will come out of nowhere.  Chances are that you’ll find your place within whatever field of work you choose.

Picking out the perfect job may be a case of what earns the most or what line of work your family is in. But keep in mind that it is also about your personal desires and strengths, as well as its potential to impact others.

This makes your job a good way to both earn your keep and make a huge difference in your community and the world – irrespective of how small you think your contributions may be. 

Every little act of kindness for anybody done over a long period of time will add up. Collectively, they will not only benefit the recipients of your help, but also inspire some of them to do likewise for their own community and over time, the entire world.  

Acts Of Kindness Amidst Global Challenges

Is there a shortage of acts of kindness in the world right now?

Some people would say the world we live in is a dark, dark place currently. There is, of course, some truth to that.

All around us, there are stories of conflict, of suffering, of endless global crises. But it doesn’t have to stay that way.

There might be problems we cannot ever address because they need entire organizations and nations to solve.

But even as ordinary humans we can do our fair share of alleviating the hardships of others with acts of kindness.

The Role Of Technology

One thing that has consistently helped us is the advent of technology. Again, some would say that our constant drive for innovations and scientific advancements are actually urging us to veer away from our humanity and from each other, but certain developments prove otherwise.

Some argue that technology can even make us more human. And I agree, especially when it comes to social apps and how they have facilitated empathy between people.

Despite the many problems that people around the world are facing, some glimmer of hope arises in social apps and how they bring people closer to each other and thus closer to solving their crises.

Here are some ways that social apps nurture hope:

Acts of kindness - speaking out and raising awareness

1. Speaking out and raising awareness

More and more, social apps are being used to promote awareness and share vital information.

Some people are simply not as exposed to important issues, and they truly benefit from others who speak out in order to help them understand.

For instance, a mother posted some facts plus her own take on depression on Facebook, an inspiring post that has gone viral and helped break stigmatizing opinions on the matter.

Mental health is a serious problem because it is not yet as accepted by many people despite the scientific data, so it always helps to bring stuff like it to the limelight and get the conversation going. It is always so tear-jerking when you hear (or read?) someone speak so passionately about something so significant.

Since it spans networks and networks of people, social media could definitely be a good avenue to raise awareness.

Ordinary individuals can participate in the global discussion, even if it means starting to inform and converse with the people who are closer to them.

Acts Of Kindness: Crowdfunding

2. Crowdfunding

One of my favorite online trends ever is GoFundMe. It helped a deaf boy provide hearing aids to fellow deaf children. It helped cops replace the stolen college tuition money of a deserving student. It helped students fund the surgery of their teacher’s wife.

Fundraising initiatives have probably been going around since time immemorial, but technology has certainly taken it to a whole new level.

Crowdfunding is an interesting online trend because you are not only appealing to people you know inside your own community, you are inviting people from everywhere to share your cause.

In doing so, you get to witness acts of kindness on a global scale. It proves that we don’t have to be so similar, we can speak different languages and live in different countries, and still have the heart to help each other.

3. Doing little acts of kindness

Lastly, just because we can raise awareness virtually or donate money online, doesn’t mean help is limited nowadays to digital forms.

Tweets, Facebook posts, and even blogs that talk about important issues are definitely a good way to participate in changing the world.

Crowdsourcing is another surefire way to help people out and make an impact in their lives, even if they are far away. But again, help that comes from progressive technology doesn’t necessarily have to remain online or virtual.

Acts Of Kindness: Hi-Tech and Hi-Touch

The BeepBeep Nation app has a proposal to digitally facilitate connections but encourage face-to-face interactions between people who are willing to help each other out.

By linking people who need help and people who can provide it, regardless of how seemingly simple and small the favor is, BeepBeep Nation inspires us to take a step forward and initiate a culture of helping amongst ourselves.

It is also a true community app, as it seeks to build networks of peers among people who willingly share their kindness with one another.

It may not seem like a lot to give someone a ride home or a place to stay, or even offer your own recommendation to promote your favorite restaurant in the vicinity, but it’s a start.

The world could be a dark place, but there are an infinite number of ways to share the light, if only little by little.

If you think there’s hope in social apps like I do, and want to share your own little spark, be sure to check out the BeepBeep Nation app, soon to launch worldwide in selected cities.

If you want to ensure it gets launched sooner rather than later, register to become a supporter here and offer your help in any way you can. Get started now and participate in a world of technological progress, hope and kindness.

Cultivating Kindness in the Next Generation

Cultivating kindness in the next generation should be done as everybody needs a shot of good news everyday.

As for me, my dosage of inspiration usually comes from stories involving children who do fantastic, exceptionally kind things for other people, or other people who do fantastic, exceptionally kind things for children.

In this blog, it’s no secret that I am partial to featuring the little people of the next generation who’ve shown some really impressive abilities, such as a great deal of empathy.

Some children first understand the need to help others because of their own plight.

For instance, a deaf boy started his own fundraising initiative to provide hearing aids for his fellow deaf children.

Others are inspired by their loved ones, like the high schooler who invented an AI system to diagnose her grandfather’s eye disease.

It goes to show that at an early age, children already have a deep enough understanding of love and already think of the welfare of those around them.

But it doesn’t stop there either.

Some children can even empathize with those who live way beyond their backyards and come from backgrounds way different from theirs. 

At times of disasters, for instance, children show that they feel so much for people that are suffering, as exemplified by an 8-year-old who collected over a thousand toys that he eventually gave away to Puerto Rican kids after the terrible hurricane.

Unfortunately, some adults aren’t even able to have this kind of empathy, but some kids definitely do.

Meanwhile, some preschoolers just want to have fun and eventually end up helping others out, like this prodigious 5-year-old who sells her own astounding galaxy paintings and donates the proceeds to a charity.

But what do these stories of the next generation mean for us who come before them?

Should we feel bad and envious that they are already doing so much more? Should our generation take credit for raising such beautiful children?

No, though perhaps possible, none of those seems right.

Some groups of people have already figured out what to do and what their role is.

Educational institutions in New York have been trying to address the problem of inequality by providing free lunches to kids of lower status, while libraries in Los Angeles have waived book rental fees for readers under the age of 21.

A Massachusetts startup is making life better for kids with autism by providing smart glasses that can help them track emotion and improve their social skills.

Disney itself committed 100 million dollars to children’s hospitals.

That’s right. What we need to do for the next generation is show them that they can become the best versions of themselves, because this world is going to be kind to them.

And we have to make sure that it happens.

We absolutely have to make this world a better place for the people who will succeed us, so that they may continue on the good work.

Not all of us can donate millions of dollars or invent something incredibly beneficial.

But there are things we can do, like volunteer our time and skills to organizations dedicated to the welfare of children, mentor kids in our community who show interest in the fields we know about, support and participate in school and after-school programs, and many others.

Sometimes, even showing compassion to tiny members of the family like our own children or nephews and nieces might already be enough.

In the end, it’s all about the culture of kindness that we cultivate for them, so that when the time comes for them to take charge of the world, they can take things further and make it an even better place.

We have to inculcate kindness in them, so that they can pay it forward and be even kinder to others.

Cultivating Kindness With BeepBeep Nation

No doubt, cultivating kindness in the next generation means that we ourselves have to be kind to each other. As they say, lead by example.

One such app with the same mission is BeepBeep Nation. It aims to make the world a better place by connecting people who need help and others who can offer it.

Providing a plethora of opportunities to give back and help out, it enables people to exercise compassion the way they want to.

Ultimately, BeepBeep Nation encourages people to share their lives with one another and believe in a future built on kindness.

This is exactly the kind of mindset that our children should learn as they are growing up.

It’s never too early for children to find the heart to help out, and it’s never too late for us to encourage them to do so.

Make A Difference In The World

Do you want to make a difference in the world?

This question is related to another one, which is how do I find my purpose in life?

Simply reading books or going outside may be a far cry from what you expect of an intense introspection, but it won’t hurt to try.

And even if it doesn’t enlighten you about the meaning of your own life, well, at least you got to enjoy your day.

I myself have gone on the life purpose spiral quite a few times, even as a woman whose business is doing okay and whose family gets along well, and it has led me before to another particular question.

Am I being selfish when I concentrate on my personal life?

What if my purpose in this world has to do with being more in the world, whatever that means?

More daunting than discovering your life path, perhaps, is asking this: what can I do to help make a better world?

I know, I know. With bills to pay and children to raise, it seems like too much.

Most of us are not presidents or billionaires; it’s not part of our everyday routine to have great impact on making a better world.

But, as with all things, it can’t hurt to start small. As long as you start. I think, even in our ordinariness, there is much to be done.

It’s okay to focus first on those near you.

Do more for the people you love. Cook your friends a hearty meal and have everyone get together, just like the old times.

It may not seem like much, but in a world where interactions mostly happen through chat or our newsfeed, it’s a radical step to foster social bonds.

Leave a sweet note in your kid’s lunch. Your baby girl or baby boy might be having a bad day in school, and needs to be cheered up.

Who knows, they might remember small acts like this in the future and use it someday as inspiration to fuel their own dreams of creating a better world.

Never underestimate the loving things you do for your inner circle.

Never underestimate the power of a smile, either.

I know, I know. That seems cliche. But niceness is definitely a good icebreaker. Make a stranger’s day better by greeting them a good morning.

Ask an acquaintance how they’re doing, mean it, and really listen.

Spend time with the elderly, hold their hand, and enjoy their stories — there is much to learn and they have much to share.

Praise your co-worker for his or her hard work this week.

Again, in a world where it’s so easy to hate and judge, showing someone your attention and appreciation could be a big thing.

Yes, society has much, much bigger problems than stray kittens. All over the world, political, cultural, and economic tensions exist.

But remember that small changes are still changes. You may not have the resources to fly to a third world country and start a charity, but you can go to your local health center and donate blood.

You may not have the time to arrange a fundraising event for the environment, but surely you can eliminate your use of plastic.

If you are good at certain skills, mentor or coach someone in your community.

If you do have the resources, make sure you donate them to foundations with causes you feel the most about.

Again, if you don’t, you can always share your knowledge. Advocate. Raise awareness.

And keep being aware. There are always new ways to make a difference.

With the pace that technology is evolving, I’m sure the industry also wants to do its part in making a better world.

Keep your eyes peeled for these opportunities.

One such app to join the mission of making a difference and offer us opportunities to do so is BeepBeep Nation.

The BeepBeep Nation app provides a platform for people to request for help whenever they need it — and in whatever form, such as needing a ride or a place to stay — and for other people to respond and help out.

It hopes to redefine and encourage human interaction in the technological age, through technology itself.

Become a BeepBeep Nation supporter now and get started on your journey make a difference in the world!

Stranger Donates Shop To Barber Who Gives Free Haircuts

In this day and age, it isn’t only lawyers who are offering their services pro bono. Dr. Kenny Wilstead fixed a battered woman’s tooth for free, to ease her recovery from domestic abuse. NFL defender Chris Long is playing this year’s entire season free-of-charge, directing his checks towards education groups. Casual barber Brennon Jones, who gives free haircuts to the homeless, is now working out of a shop donated by a stranger — at no cost, of course.

“Me, personally, I think I surpassed a thousand haircuts, so many I stopped counting. So it’s been a good year so far,” Brennon explained.

Sean Johnson, a self-made barber himself (he owns Taper’s Barbershop!), is Jones’ generous benefactor. Johnson decided to focus on the donation in place of an expansion project.

“It wasn’t about me giving a barbershop, when you look at the homeless and the things that they need, I looked at it as more. I built something and I want to see it keep going and I want to see it do a great thing,” Johnson said.

Set to open in November, the shop will cater to both regular and homeless customers. To many who call sidewalks and park benches home, the occasional haircut provides a much-needed boost of confidence.