Your S.O. Doesn’t Have to be a Lover — It Might Be a Stranger in Need

It’s no secret that the idea of finding a soulmate or at least someone that you could spend your life with has enchanted people for centuries. We cannot deny that romantic love is one of the biggest aspects of our lives. From all the world’s love songs to romantic comedy films, from museum art to television commercials, from poems to Facebook photo albums, that kind of love is constantly promoted to us by various forms of media.

One of the grandest days of every year is even dedicated to that idea; once a year, every corner is filled with figures of baby angels and big old hearts punctured by a golden arrow, dozens and dozens of roses, stacks and stacks of chocolate boxes, stuffed toys, sometimes even expensive jewelry, and all of that cheesy Valentine’s merchandise.

Now of course not everybody has the same cheesy dreams to chase. Some believe in milder or not-so-cliché notions of romance. You might have understood love through a simple story of how your parents met at an elevator at the workplace one day and just started talking, which led to 30 years (and counting!) of marriage. Or you might have appreciated it as you spot an adorable couple just chilling out and individually reading books together at a coffee shop. Maybe you currently have a significant other, and you fall in love with her a little bit more every time you watch her earnestly solving crossword puzzles. These are all notions of romantic love as well.

However, so many people also lose their minds over love. Believing that they cannot exist without their romantic partner, they lose sight of everything once the relationship ends. Or hopelessly waiting for the attention of the person who do not love them the same way, they waste years and years of their lives. I can’t begin to fathom the number of heartbroken humans in the world right now.

Meanwhile, I know some people who are in the single-and-not-really-enjoying-it boat, because they are so fixated in finally having a significant other. I have a friend who regularly asks me to match her up with someone or pretty much anyone I know (which is a recipe for disaster, I tell you), and then ends up at my apartment crying on my shoulder whenever her Tinder dates go badly. I can’t tell if she is just bored or doesn’t know what else to do with her life, but I do think my friend is a good person who has a lot of love to share. She just hasn’t found the right one to share her heart with.

For all of you who are in a similar situation, this is what I told her a few times before: there are other kinds of affection that you can choose to share with people now. You can even give some love with a stranger in need. You don’t need to be romantically involved just to give love and be loved. There’s too much kindness, tenderness, and happiness to be given in the world, just for all of it to be caged inside us as we wait for Prince or Princess Charming. Romantic love isn’t the ultimate kind of love; there are many, and it’s just one of them.

For instance, we can pour our love towards our family members. Take your mom and sister out to brunch or a makeover and spa day every once in a while. Also, your mom and dad will certainly appreciate if you arrange a fancy date night for them, one they probably haven’t had for some time now. Shower your pets with affection — I’m sure it’s going to be incredibly fulfilling to be reminded of how sweet they can really be. Stop looking for prospects during a girls’ night out, forget all about the boys, and really have some fun with each other. Stop taking the people (and lovable pets?) around you for granted while looking for somebody else to love.

There is also much to learn when you go out into the world to seek new connections, and not necessarily in the romantic sense. Maybe your significant other isn’t supposed to be a lover; maybe your love and affection can go instead to a stranger in need. Spend your hours volunteering at a home for the elderly. Teach your passions to the kids in the community. Help someone out at the grocery. Sharing your kindness to a stranger in need is another type of love that is just as pure and meaningful.

The BeepBeep Nation app has the mission of making the world a better place and encouraging everyone to share their love and affection by being kind to a stranger in need. By providing a platform to connect people who want to request for help and others who can offer that help, BeepBeep Nation enables people to be more compassionate and more loving.

Fuelled by the EMINENT token, “The Mother of All Apps” features many categories of help that people can give or get. BeepBeep Nation users will have endless opportunities to enjoy face-to-face social interactions and meet interesting people.

Check out the EMINENT token pre-sale now, and learn more about BeepBeep Nation. By promoting kindness in the world, you just might find yourself having many significant others. And by offering your help to a stranger in need, you just might offer your heart as well.

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Generous Mom Donates 5,000 Pints Of Breast Milk

We all know moms are everyday superheroes. Whether they are defending you on social media or simply giving great advice, it’s all out of unconditional love. But this mom is paying it forward by donating 5,000 pints of breast milk to gay couples and parents with premature babies.

Elisabeth Anderson-Sierra is able to produce twice the amount of breast milk as the average woman due to hyper lactation syndrome.

Because of this, the 29-year-old is spending ten hours a day pumping two gallons of breast milk.

While it may seem so, it’s no easy feat as Anderson-Sierra also has to sterilize, package, and freeze the milk. She donates majority of the milk to a milk bank, while some mothers make personal visits to her home.

As well as children of gay couples and mothers who cannot yet produce breast milk because of premature births, she is also donating milk to mothers who cannot produce milk because of a mastectomy following breast cancer.

Following a large number of babies in need, Anderson-Sierra’s act of kindness is going a long way. A big salute to this super mom!

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Difficult Conversations You Need To Have With Your Significant Other

How many kids to have, whether or not to share a bank account, and where to host a dream wedding don’t make first-date conversations. In fact, you may end up with a runaway date and dinner bill all to yourself. But somewhere along the road, they become increasingly relevant, especially when long-term partnership is in the books.

Whether you have been together for a year or five, these are the conversations you definitely need to have with your significant other.

Once a relationship has been defined (or DTR’d, for millennial readers), it is crucial to lay down your expectations of one another. Are you a private person? And if so, how much of your relationship are you willing to openly share on social media? While it is not uncommon to experience the occasional bout of insecurity, do you expect your partner to provide you with updates throughout the day? Whatever the case, it is important to express your expectations, within reasonable limits.

The popular saying, “opposites attract” is the case for some couples. However, it isn’t always fun and games when your notions and ideas clash. Beliefs are a vital area of discussion, especially if you hail from two polarizing backgrounds. If you are a devout animal rights activist, can you stomach a partner who loves steak and frites? Appreciating the politics of another is something that is naturally realized between two people–but couples exist on a different level of intimacy, which is not always as simple as it seems.

It remains inevitable for a couple to engage in the periodic argument. Perhaps he had forgotten to do the groceries or she forgot to let the dog out to do his business. Regardless, a means of communication must be established. Are you the type who is confrontational? Do you need time to gather your thoughts before discussing the issue at hand? Your partner must eventually familiarize themselves with your habits–how you get a point across. Addressing how your partner thinks he or she can best handle a difficult situation may not be the most comfortable discussion (in fact, we know it isn’t). Instead, recall a particular argument you may have had and analyze how your significant other handled the situation.

Meeting a serious partner’s family is always a formidable moment. While it may be intimidating, it is also exciting and something that should be discussed beforehand. Talking about your family relationships is a topic that shouldn’t be avoided. Your mother may prefer quiet brunches on Sundays while his or hers may be boisterous and all about nightlife. Find common ground–an activity both parties can appreciate. Know how to approach your partner’s relatives. Maybe they are soft-spoken. Maybe they are loud. Nevertheless, it isn’t about being impressive. It’s about demonstrating your best qualities and showing nothing but respect.

Talks about the future may be fun and casual, but this will not always be the case. Together with your partner, enumerate your goals as a couple. What do you foresee when the honeymoon phase comes to an end? Do you plan to live in the city or perhaps somewhere more remote? Agree to compromise when you can’t completely see eye-to-eye.

 

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